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Top tips to stop comfort eating

10/5/2020

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Written by Nyomi Graef

What do sex, drugs, food and alcohol have in common? Lots. One thing in particular is that they are all ways to help us cope during tough times.

If we focus on food as a coping mechanism, comfort eating (also known as emotional or stress eating) is very common. How much so? Well a 2016 article by ABC News said that comfort eating “plays a huge role in Australia's obesity epidemic with 83 per cent of overweight or obese Australians eating emotionally, according to a recent survey.”

During the current coronavirus pandemic, this figure is probably even higher.
 

What are some experts’ opinions on comfort eating? Is it a good idea?
Harvard Medical School summarises my thoughts on this topic well in its health report titled Lose Weight and Keep it Off. It says: “The trouble is, comfort eating ... only works temporarily. Worse, it causes longer-term distress if it brings about weight gain.”
 
Deborah Beck Busis, program director for the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy outside Philadelphia, USA, also shares my views on this issue. She says that: “It [comfort eating] ultimately just makes the situation worse because it creates more problems by jeopardising weight loss, reinforcing bad habits, and making you feel guilty.”

Comfort eating can be regular, harmful and addictive
If comfort eating was a one-off/rare occurrence, then it’s obviously unlikely to cause long-term harm. But eating salty/sugary/fatty junk food when we are upset can be (and often is) frequent, harmful and addictive. People can comfort eat for years, and find it very hard to stop. A few kilos of initial weight gain can easily turn into many kilos over time, if comfort eating isn’t quickly stopped.
 
Stephanie Sogg is an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She says that: “We know that there are parts of the brain that are rewarded from eating high-fat or high-sugar foods. And over a decade of psychological research tells us that any behaviour that is rewarded is likely to be repeated. So, if you eat for comfort, and you find that it works, you’re naturally going to do it again.”


Eating to cope does not address the underlying causes of our problems
For long-term happiness we must overcome the root causes of comfort eating, and deal with them in helpful ways.
 
No amount of food will fill the gap in our lives, hearts or souls. If you comfort eat, stop using food - especially junk food - to fill the gap. As mentioned, comfort eating can be harmful. Find better ways to cope with problems that don’t lead to weight gain and other problems that regular over-eating (especially on unhealthy comfort foods) can cause, such as type 2 diabetes, guilt and shame.
 
How can we stop comfort eating?
First know why we comfort eat. Are we stressed, angry, sad, lonely or disappointed...? Maybe we feel a mixture of two or more of these emotions.
 
Now determine why we don't feel good and why we turn to that food to cheer up. Food is strongly linked with celebrations, memories and so on. For example, a particular comfort food might remind us of happy times in the past that cheered us up. Perhaps we used to eat that food with someone we love (or loved), so when we eat that food now (when we feel unloved), we feel loved again. This is just one of many possible reasons. Find the reasons that are relevant to you.
 
Swap the bad habit with one or more good habits
As mentioned, comfort eating is often a bad habit. It’s best to swap this habit with one or more good behaviours. Next, over time through regular reinforcement, the new behaviours need to become good habits that feel normal to us. Read my blog post about ways to swap bad habits with good habits for further details, if you’re interested.
 
Think of better ways to cope with negative emotions, and put into action ways that you like
For example:
  • Do you comfort eat to reduce stress? Instead use positive non-food related stress management techniques such as meditation, exercise (a walk/tai chi/other physical activities that suit you), deep breathing, and/or muscle relaxation exercises.
  • Maybe you feel sad or lonely? Chat with friends and family more often, speak with a counsellor, or make new friends, for instance. An enjoyable hobby/pastime, exercise, or online course can boost our spirits.
  • Do you comfort eat to help stop feeling angry? Use tried and tested safe anger management techniques that don’t involve eating. Intense exercise, going for a walk, calming breathing techniques, and changing your thinking about the angry situation are just some ideas that could help.
Again, remember to often reinforce the new behaviours that you choose so that they become habits.
 
Get help if you need it 
Talk to a counsellor, read a book on the topic (on stress/grief/depression, for instance), chat with someone who has overcome the problem themselves... whatever constructive ways that you find work to overcome the underlying causes of your negative emotions.

Use cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
Be conscious of when you are about to comfort eat, and stop yourself turning to food for comfort before you start eating. Lose Weight and Keep it Off recommends using cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) to help stop comfort eating. This involves swapping negative thoughts (so in this case thoughts that lead to comfort eating), with helpful thoughts that stop us from trying to eat our way to happiness.
 
Below are some negative thoughts that I have thought of, along with some helpful thoughts to replace them with. Use them, adapt them and/or make up ones that connect with you.

Negative thoughts: I’m stressed (or sad/angry/lonely/other emotion) so I will eat. It makes me happy.

Helpful thoughts: Eating will only bring me short-term happiness. Afterwards I might feel bad (or guilty/ashamed and so on), so eating isn’t worth it in the long run. I’ll do something positive instead.

Negative thoughts: Food makes me happy. It never calls me names (or picks on me/yells at me...) It’s yummy and satisfying, and it always cheers me up.

Helpful thoughts: Food only makes me feel good temporarily. I will respect myself and my health more. This means I’ll now do better things to cheer myself up that don’t make me gain weight/increase my risk of lifestyle-related diseases (or make me feel bad/guilty etc.). I will listen to a happy song (and/or talk to a friend/read some positive affirmations/watch something funny on YouTube...) instead.

 
Summary and final thoughts
  • Comfort eating is just a temporary solution to help us feel better when we feel negative emotions.
  • It can cause unwanted weight gain, obesity, guilt, shame and other issues.
  • Appropriately deal with the root causes of our negative emotions.
  • Replace comfort eating with helpful thoughts and behaviours.
  • Reinforce the new behaviours often so that, over time, they become our standard ways to cope when we need comforting.
  • Don’t fill our stomachs with unhealthy comfort foods to try to fill whatever “emotional holes” are in our lives.
  • Respect ourselves — practise safe, helpful and healthy coping methods.
 
References
Ikin, S, 2016, Emotional eating fuelling Australia's obesity epidemic, psychologist says, ABC News, https://www.abc.net.au/news/2016-02-18/emotional-eating-fuelling-australias-obesity-epidemic/7175204
 
Lose Weight and Keep it Off: Special Health Report, 2017, Harvard Medical School, Massachusetts, USA: Harvard University
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